Is it real or is it imagined? Our feelings are left up to our imagination. Nothing derives the feelings, we create them. So where do these feelings come from?
THOUGHTS! Thoughts create feelings….not the other way around!
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” — Aristotle.
Let’s say you are at a stop sign and it is your turn to go, but the driver in the car to your left cuts you off. Hmmm….for some people that might really get them in a huff. They might yell, curse, shake their head, point their finger, give a disgusted look and do whatever they can in a large fashion to show their sense of frustration. – But not you! You realize that the other person must have had a true emergency and they really were not paying any attention because they were so overwrought with concern for where they had to go! Or you think that the person just wanted to get a better look at you because you are beautiful AND they have always wanted a car just like yours….SO you just smile and wave and drive on. RIGHT?
You decided how you felt about the situation! Exactly!
Events happen. We interpret the event and place meaning on it. Our mood is thus created!
In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated, David Burns teaches us that our thoughts create our feelings. Burns explains the relationship between the world, your thoughts and your mood:
- World – a series of positive, neutral and negative events.
- Thoughts – you interpret the events with a series of thoughts that continually flow through your mind. This is called your “internal
- Mood – Your feelings are created by your thoughts and not
the actual events. All experiences must be processed through your brain and
given a conscious meaning before you experience any emotional response.
So we create the meaning. (UGH! wait YES!!!!) I am totally responsible for how I feel! YES!!!! (Sign up for 7 Days To A New Life, FREE to your right!)
I am super excited about that! No longer do I have to be fearful, angry, sad (anger turned inward), or feel any way other than how I choose to feel. Does that mean I should never have those feelings of anger or sadness? Of course not. Yet, I do get to decide how long I feel that way and thus how long it will control my mood. Giving myself permission the freedom to move forward and celebrate all the other miracles that are happening around me.
“Fear” can no more hold me captive because only I can create it and imagine it in my own mind. Fear is not something tangible….only created. Because I decide if that feeling even exists. Faith or fear….I can only feel one or the other! I choose faith. I choose to focus on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
And since what I focus on expands…I will find more of such things!
May your day be filled with the sight of all the miracles which surround you.
Fate is controlled…just like a captain controls the ship.